Readin wyt’s thread got me thinking about parenthood. At my current stage in life I have absolutely no interest or desire to father a child, I also can’t see this changing in the next few years. It’s just something that does not appeal to me.
I don’t know if this is because I still feel quite young (I’m approaching 30) and am generally quite immature (was last of my peers to get pubes) or if I’m just not the type to be bothered with it.
Fathers and mothers on the forum - is this something you also experienced before you were eventually caught out / made the decision to have one? Am I likely to change? Is it worth the whole thing even worth the hassle?
I’m very skeptical, I like my life as it is and don’t see how a child could add to it. I just think it would be a bit like Las Vegas - some people rave about it and say it’s the best place in the world and some people hate it (I hated it).
EDIT: I realize there is a downstream impact on my main life ambition here, no need for people to point that out.
Id be terrified to have a kid at this stage as your own freedom whether that’s travelling the world or socialising is gone,you are now responsible for another human being for at least 18 years…not for another 10-12 years for me anyway!
Sooner or later, you’ll get hitched to some bird for whatever reason and if it happens, it happens. One thing that annoys the shit out of me is seeing friends, married for around 10 years, banging on about wanting children, but 'waiting for the right time". There’s no right time. You either have them, or you don’t.
Once you do, they are pretty much the best thing you will ever do with your life and the best people you’ll ever meet. My little fella played an U-8’s cricket match last night. The team scored 62 runs, of which he scored 42. Then he took a wicket and 3 runs outs and a great catch when playing wickie. Watching your kid do stuff like that and really enjoying themselves is the best fun you’ll ever have.
Awww man.That’s one of the funniest lines I’ve ever read on here. God bless briantinnion and God bless America. One of my last peers to get pubes. Brilliant.
Some day. Don’t think I’m ready yet though and I like the feeling that I can pretty much drop everything and move somewhere else at the drop of a hat. not sure if a one bed apt in Sydney is the best place to raise kids.
A perplexing issue though and I’m a few years
younger than BT. The fathers of the forum will I’m sure pour wise words of wisdom onto this thread.
would have felt the same way as you bt at that age and even up to just before the baby came along, but the effect a child has on you is quite profound. gone is the general apathy to life and its replaced with pride and responsibility and love. its a great feeling to have and if you say you want to try for a baby you get loads of riding in.
would have felt the same way as you bt at that age and even up to just before the baby came along, but the effect a child has on you is quite profound. gone is the general apathy to life and its replaced with pride and responsibility and love. its a great feeling to have and if you say you want to try for a baby you get loads of riding in.
Kids are cool. You can afford them and they are worth it. In saying that 3 is enough for me. In fact I’m contimplating getting the snip in the next while just to be sure.
Without a shadow of a doubt yes. I’d much rather have them than not have them. They are great craic and they do put some point into a lot of aspects of life. They make you more patient too, I think.
Kids are poor poeples way of making themselves feel better later on in life.
If you’ve got more than 1 kid then you’re actually betting against yourself being able to make it past 65 without shitting yourself regularly.
The poorest countries have the highest birth rate and not becuase they can’t buy Mr.Freeze wrappers, but becuase they selfishly need to have 10 kids to clean them and bathe them and pay for their oldfolks home/coffin/funeral/false teeth etc etc in later life.
Confident men don’t need kids. Alcohol, drugs and women are their crutch.
