PHNâs have regular check ups with kids until the age of 2 or 3 I think. You go to them rather than them coming to you. Standard developmental checks
Thanks very much to my online friends for all the advice and insight.
Iâd get it looked at privately. It might not be anything if it is early intervention is key. Our son started to show autism traits at about a year. We were all over it straight away and pushing hard when just about everyone in the system was telling us to adopt a wait and see approach. If there is an issue, earliest possible intervention is crucial.
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ok, premature babies usually require a lot of monitoring in general from what i know but i honestly have no clue if this is a contributing factor here
100% they need to get to a specialist now, call the GP tomorrow and take it from there.
My esteemed other half comes from a well documented basket case of a country BUT it does have an unreal health system, the concept of a GP dealing with a baby baffles her, over there they have paediatric doctors for u-12s, its like a GP for kids and they are ferociously proactive, anyway, not much help
im just very suprised that the nurse didnt pick this up at the various stages, its entirely possible there could be a hearing issue there , also look he could be a bit late- first kids always are - my bollox of a son only started walking at 18 months, thats considered late - now in israel theyâd have them in physio by then if they werent walking but we are more relaxed here - he is flying now
kids do develope at different speeds and environment is a huge thing but as u say , second kids usually quicker as they watch the older sibling
its tough the mother off to work, creches at least help here as the kids really develope socially - that poor fella seems to be off to a bad start
is the mother any good at all?
sheâs fiddling when rome is on fire here, needs to get that kid to the doc ASAP - no excuses - if she cant get an appt, fucking drive to kids A/E in Tallaght and that will force a system to move, the fucking parents have a responsibility here, 21 months is way too late for these âmilestonesâ i hate that wordâŚ
obvious spot tho, kid could be deaf - but he should also be getting well curious now - messing with plugs, all that stuff, if he is not, he needs help
If heâs 21 months already Iâd be getting him checked out.
You did the right thing bud.
you did an excellent thing flagging it here
can you get the lad to post on here so we can sound him out
also - pay no heed to @Mac and his faux sympathy and just using this as a lever to advertise some buddy of his who is charging exorbitant rates
just tell that lad to get his son to a doctor, now, i mean he needs to be in fucking moving about it pronto
Cut them some slack mate. They have got their finger out. Havenât they asked @Bandage to come on here to get a first opinion.
How do you know they wonât go to a medical professional afterwards to confirm whatâs been said here.
They are either very blasĂŠ or theyâve the head firmly in the sand.
Youâd think the grandparents would be all over this.
Story doesnât stack up at all.
Not long back. Trip was lengthy because it was impossible to fly before today money - wise. Stayed a night with the people who I hope will become my in-laws.
Anyway, basically: if I had not been there Iâd have lost in 5 minutes. If my good lady had not been there Iâd probably have keeled over as my solicitor was appointed an hour before and spoke no English.
No end but we are definitely on top. I have never been more scared but I held it together thankfully.
So, to all of you: there are no words adequate. None . If I donât do something really good in the future to show my appreciation can someone in the RA please have me shot. It was a life changing trip. Very very difficult to stand before the two people who have destroyed my family, turned my nana into an old woman very suddenly and almost got me.
But the boy. He never gave up. It was âŚwell ye can imagine.
And in a strange twist I absolutely love Poland. Adore the place.
Another while to go on this but fuckâŚI think we can do it. Again @artfoley and the rest, you know who you are, fuck me am I appreciative and overwhelmed. Amazing. Absolutely amazing. Itâs been a long torture but I am emerging a man who has purpose, is better in every way, knows love and feels reborn. Thank you.
Great stuff mate. Whatâs the next step?
would you learn Polish and relocate?
huh?
Only spotting this now @Bandage . As a father to 3 kids on the spectrum all I can say is you did the right thing flagging this. They need to get private assessment ASAP . Most private docs still wonât assess kids until they are 2 but may as well get the ball rolling. Delaying is not the way to go if the child does have Autism. Early intervention is key . Not for one moment saying that this kid has Autism BTW but some of the things you wrote up would be fairly similar to what we went through. Definitely hearing should be checked at first. Also as many have said the fact that the child was premature would hinder development some bit. Writing this In a bit of a rush but if youâve any questions bang me on a PM.
She was presented with a summons for the end of February for Guardianship in Dublin. So the Hague Convention motion was postponed pending the outcome of that.
Which would seem to be a good looking future but I am still too fucked in the head to get excited.
Doesnât help when some of your friends of 20 years+ are now trying to make up scenarios which equate them ignoring me for two years with stuff I missed because I was bleedin suicidal or crazed at the time so I am an equal prick. (The few who stood with me have already been promised whatever reward I can give in the near future. Art and Runt deserve continents, the rest of ye major archipelagos etc) Not to mention my da still ignoring me because of stuff I actually forgave because I understood. This has been a 100% test. But as I always say I am glad it happened because it has made me and changed everything for the better in my head. To use massive understatement.
EXCEPT, and @HBV I will need your guidance here: I suddenly have to confront monogamy.
And yes I looked at house prices at the weekend in Poland. Itâs decided. Thereâs a business opportunity.
@balbec due to your past business activities I think you might be interested. âŚ
Finally, the one constant strong person I always could rely on: my nana.