I like the eulogies myself, gives a few nice snapshots of the deceaseds passage in life. I know sometimes the priests few words and the eulogy can overlap.
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Do the eulogies at the graveside; if youāre only at the mass to show face, shake hands outside afterwards and dash off it is very handy.
The chief priest at few funeral masses I have went to lately have allowed the sympathysers to offer their condolences before mass even starts. Very handy
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The priests should be told to fuck off. People come to hear about and pay respects to the deceased and their family, not to hear a fucking mass.
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Dont forget the hymns and music. For me they really create the right mood for the service
Yeah, we need to make sure everything is designed to suit the lad that who wants to show face and fuck off. The bereaved can work around that. 
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I tell you what, maybe stay away ta fuck then.
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Iām not a religious person but thatās a very selfish post. The family and deceased might be religious and the words of the priest might be very important to them. Some people who arenāt religious still take something from the ceremony of a church funeralā¦ if they dont want a priest thereās other ways to go about it. You should respect the wishes of others and not make it about what you want.
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A funeral mass is the normal way of sending someone off in Ireland. Priests denying families the opportunity to speak about their deceased at the funeral mass is bullshit in my opinion. Especially when so many priests do a piss poor job of paying tribute to the deceased. Itās easy to accommodate both. Funerals are about the deceased and the family, not about mass, priests should respect that.
In itās favour though itās a new way of the church showing how out of touch they are and will alienate even more people, so thatās good.
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Bravo
They also come to pay their respects and not hear some Florence nightingale version of somebody to the point where folk want to open the coffin to make sure theyāre not at the wrong funeral .
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I come to bury Caesar, not to praise him.
The evil that men do lives after them;
The good is oft interred with their bones;
So let it be with Caesar. The noble Brutus
Hath told you Caesar was ambitious:
If it were so, it was a grievous fault,
And grievously hath Caesar answerād it.
Here, under leave of Brutus and the restā
For Brutus is an honourable man;
So are they all, all honourable menā
Come I to speak in Caesarās funeral.
He was my friend, faithful and just to me:
But Brutus says he was ambitious;
And Brutus is an honourable man.
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I might have missed it but i donāt think anyone said that priests were denying people to speak? Iām not sure any priest would get away with that nor should they.
@StoneCold comes out of this very badly tho.
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Thanks mate
They are. It varies across parishes/diocese(s?) but loads of them have decided no more eulogies/family speaking at funeral masses.
Link?
I havenāt heard that but Iāve not been to a funeral in yonks.
Iāll have to kill someone this weekend and see how the local priest goes about it.
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No worries mate, I know that not being in any way informed about a subject is usually no barrier to you commenting on it.
Similarly, casting a wide unfounded aspersion on nothing but anecdotal evidence is no barrier to yourself.
Itās an awful impasse we find ourselves at.
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Iāve been at a couple of funerals in Wexford recently where a family member spoke about the deceased at the start of the funeral mass. Called up by the priest after the opening blessing. Then the priest does his bit after the gospel - a eulogy with the personal touch but linking it back to the religious message too. The absolute best of both worlds.
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