Might depend how close the friend or the person with their grandparent but when the removal was on of an evening a handy 10min drive out for these lads I think it was poor form not get up off the couch and go for the half hour it would have taken.
If itās somebody you are very good friends and grew up with and therefore probably met the grandmother then you should go. If itās somebody that you are just mates with and have the few pints with, like say me, then an olā text should do.
Ah, I was only jesting (funeral-based hilarity, who doesnāt love it?), Iāll always go to stuff, I know how much it means to the family or the person you know or whatever. Two of my friends came to my grandadās funeral 5 years ago. Didnāt expect anyone to at all but the gesture they made in coming was much appreciated and never forgotten.
Funeral today was a huge one. We really do know how to throw a funeral. I was stood at the doorway in the freezing cold, couldnāt see a thing or hear a word due to the crowd, but sure you stand and take it and offer your condolences afterwards and thatās that.
the main thing is to be seen
Bingo
Same with a lot of things in life
Thatās the key to the whole thing. Iād be one for attending the funeral parlour, one lap around the coffin and away again, unless of course thereās a huge session as a result, then itās straight to nearest watering hole to meet up with anll the other lads who know the score
you man up and shake hands with the cunt because only a real cunt wouldnāt shake hands at a funeral
It fucking noted down here who was in attendance and taken up at a later stage, massive insult not to attend a funeral, being away is ok not hearing it is a fucking belt in the jaw offence
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pretending you were away is ok as well
what are you on about I wasnāt away, cant fly at the moment anyway
because of the pending probate situation?
did you believe that shit??? Mrs turfcutters relation passed away but the funeral isnāt till the new year anyway but we canāt go as we canāt fly at that time
Iām fairly gullible
it appears so
too trusting
i donĀ“t really like this trend of somebody getting up to speak about the deceasedā¦find it very American or something ā¦whoĀ“s actually going to say anything bad about the deceased??..find it very rose-tintedā¦doesnĀ“t need sayingā¦let everyone have their own memory i thinkā¦
its up there with the " isnĀ“t she a gorgeous baby"ā¦I mean have you ever heard anything else ever said??..whoĀ“d turnaround to the parents of a newborn and say " jaysus the size of her ears ! " etcā¦
Sure whatās the alternative, the family write something and the priest reads it out? Much nicer that someone that knew the deceased speaks.
[quote=āscumpot, post: 594945ā]i donĀ“t really like this trend of somebody getting up to speak about the deceasedā¦find it very American or something ā¦whoĀ“s actually going to say anything bad about the deceased??..find it very rose-tintedā¦doesnĀ“t need sayingā¦let everyone have their own memory i thinkā¦
its up there with the " isnĀ“t she a gorgeous baby"ā¦I mean have you ever heard anything else ever said??..whoĀ“d turnaround to the parents of a newborn and say " jaysus the size of her ears ! " etcā¦[/quote]
Donāt agree at all. Itās an opportunity for the family to pay tribute to the deceased in a meaningful way rather than listen to the platitudes of a priest who may have no knowledge of the person.
I honestly donĀ“t think anything needs to be saidā¦those who know the deceased have their memories and those who donĀ“t well they arenĀ“t every going to by that stageā¦just my personal opinionā¦think its an added pressure to the person who has to speak in a difficult time aswellā¦
Getting someone a bit removed from the immediate family is best for a eulogy of that type I think. They usually have better drinking stories that the family might not be aware of and raise a wry chuckle.