Funeral etiquette

Might depend how close the friend or the person with their grandparent but when the removal was on of an evening a handy 10min drive out for these lads I think it was poor form not get up off the couch and go for the half hour it would have taken.

If itā€™s somebody you are very good friends and grew up with and therefore probably met the grandmother then you should go. If itā€™s somebody that you are just mates with and have the few pints with, like say me, then an olā€™ text should do.

Ah, I was only jesting (funeral-based hilarity, who doesnā€™t love it?), Iā€™ll always go to stuff, I know how much it means to the family or the person you know or whatever. Two of my friends came to my grandadā€™s funeral 5 years ago. Didnā€™t expect anyone to at all but the gesture they made in coming was much appreciated and never forgotten.

Funeral today was a huge one. We really do know how to throw a funeral. I was stood at the doorway in the freezing cold, couldnā€™t see a thing or hear a word due to the crowd, but sure you stand and take it and offer your condolences afterwards and thatā€™s that.

the main thing is to be seen

Bingo

Same with a lot of things in life

Thatā€™s the key to the whole thing. Iā€™d be one for attending the funeral parlour, one lap around the coffin and away again, unless of course thereā€™s a huge session as a result, then itā€™s straight to nearest watering hole to meet up with anll the other lads who know the score

you man up and shake hands with the cunt because only a real cunt wouldnā€™t shake hands at a funeral

It fucking noted down here who was in attendance and taken up at a later stage, massive insult not to attend a funeral, being away is ok not hearing it is a fucking belt in the jaw offence

:lol:

pretending you were away is ok as well

what are you on about I wasnā€™t away, cant fly at the moment anyway

because of the pending probate situation?

did you believe that shit??? Mrs turfcutters relation passed away but the funeral isnā€™t till the new year anyway but we canā€™t go as we canā€™t fly at that time

Iā€™m fairly gullible

it appears so

too trusting

i donĀ“t really like this trend of somebody getting up to speak about the deceasedā€¦find it very American or something ā€¦whoĀ“s actually going to say anything bad about the deceased??..find it very rose-tintedā€¦doesnĀ“t need sayingā€¦let everyone have their own memory i thinkā€¦
its up there with the " isnĀ“t she a gorgeous baby"ā€¦I mean have you ever heard anything else ever said??..whoĀ“d turnaround to the parents of a newborn and say " jaysus the size of her ears ! " etcā€¦

Sure whatā€™s the alternative, the family write something and the priest reads it out? Much nicer that someone that knew the deceased speaks.

[quote=ā€œscumpot, post: 594945ā€]i donĀ“t really like this trend of somebody getting up to speak about the deceasedā€¦find it very American or something ā€¦whoĀ“s actually going to say anything bad about the deceased??..find it very rose-tintedā€¦doesnĀ“t need sayingā€¦let everyone have their own memory i thinkā€¦
its up there with the " isnĀ“t she a gorgeous baby"ā€¦I mean have you ever heard anything else ever said??..whoĀ“d turnaround to the parents of a newborn and say " jaysus the size of her ears ! " etcā€¦[/quote]

Donā€™t agree at all. Itā€™s an opportunity for the family to pay tribute to the deceased in a meaningful way rather than listen to the platitudes of a priest who may have no knowledge of the person.

I honestly donĀ“t think anything needs to be saidā€¦those who know the deceased have their memories and those who donĀ“t well they arenĀ“t every going to by that stageā€¦just my personal opinionā€¦think its an added pressure to the person who has to speak in a difficult time aswellā€¦

Getting someone a bit removed from the immediate family is best for a eulogy of that type I think. They usually have better drinking stories that the family might not be aware of and raise a wry chuckle.