Funeral etiquette

[Horsebox]

@kerry1891

hey lads,

the big buzz at funeral masses now seems to be for a member of the family to go up and say a few words about the deceased. was this always the case? I cant recall this been as common in the past. My recollection is that the priest used to say whatever needed to be said about the deceased.

I’d say as time moves on, the priests won’t be doing this anymore as they won’t know the person at all. A lot of people like myself haven’t been inside a church for years and wouldn’t know a priest. I think it’s better that it comes from somebody who knows the deceased rather than a priest. Also, it would be fairly hypocritical for a priest to be saying a few words at certain funerals, like say TASE, after what they’ve been through at the hands of the Catholic church in this country.

[myboyblue]

I’d make an excellent eugoogliser.

[manaboutdog]

@Horsebox

I’d say as time moves on, the priests won’t be doing this anymore as they won’t know the person at all. A lot of people like myself haven’t been inside a church for years and wouldn’t know a priest. I think it’s better that it comes from somebody who knows the deceased rather than a priest. Also, it would be fairly hypocritical for a priest to be saying a few words at certain funerals, like say TASE, after what they’ve been through at the hands of the Catholic church in this country.

By the same token, is it not equally hypocritical for these same people to have their funeral in a Catholic Church in the first place?

[Horsebox]

@manaboutdog

By the same token, is it not equally hypocritical for these same people to have their funeral in a Catholic Church in the first place?

Yes it is but there are few options in this country. I know plenty of people who didn’t want to christen their kids but had no option if they want to get them into the local schools.

[HBV]

@kerry1891

hey lads,

the big buzz at funeral masses now seems to be for a member of the family to go up and say a few words about the deceased. was this always the case? I cant recall this been as common in the past. My recollection is that the priest used to say whatever needed to be said about the deceased.

what would the priest know about anyone nowadays?

[myboyblue]

[quote=“HBV*, post: 594914”]

what would the priest know about anyone nowadays?[/quote]
Plenty depending on the age.

[myboyblue]

[quote=“Horsebox, post: 594913”]

Yes it is but there are few options in this country. I know plenty of people who didn’t want to christen their kids but had no option if they want to get them into the local schools.[/quote]
What has that got to do with a funeral?

[Horsebox]

@myboyblue

What has that got to do with a funeral?

Fucked if I know mate-I’m not giving this thread my full attention as I’m on a conference call with simpletons at the moment.

[SHANNONSIDER]

I intend having a humanist ceremony and will be laid to rest in a willow casket. Brush Shiels will give the eulogy.

[carryharry]

@SHANNONSIDER

I intend having a humanist ceremony and will be laid to rest in a willow casket. Brush Shiels will give the eulogy.

A splendid send off SS.

[glasagusban]

@manaboutdog

By the same token, is it not equally hypocritical for these same people to have their funeral in a Catholic Church in the first place?

Not really. They’d be dead you see.

[myboyblue]

[quote=“glasagusban, post: 594920”]

Not really. They’d be dead you see.[/quote]
Foxholes dont do atheists, etc.

[Thrawneen]

@SHANNONSIDER

I intend having a humanist ceremony and will be laid to rest in a willow casket. Brush Shiels will give the eulogy.

I was at a Humanist funeral a couple of months ago. It was deadly. I found it hard to express the appropriate amount of sorrow to my pal afterwards because I enjoyed it so much.

Going to a regular funeral in the morning. I don’t imagine it’s going to be in any way enjoyable, unfortunately. Cancer, early 40s. Not cool.

[Chavez]

@Thrawneen

I was at a Humanist funeral a couple of months ago. It was deadly. I found it hard to express the appropriate amount of sorrow to my pal afterwards because I enjoyed it so much.

Going to a regular funeral in the morning. I don’t imagine it’s going to be in any way enjoyable, unfortunately. Cancer, early 40s. Not cool.

is it a kind of hobby for you…going to funerals like? :strokechin:

[Thrawneen]

@Chavez

is it a kind of hobby for you…going to funerals like? :strokechin:

If I never had to go to another one in my life, I’d be grand with that. My grandad retired from going to them when he got to a certain age as he didn’t want to get bogged down and depressed by them and be relating his own mortality to them. He was probably in his late 70s at that stage. I’m 30, but I think I might try the same trick. Just in case, like.

[massey_ferguson]

[quote=“Thrawneen, post: 594924”]

If I never had to go to another one in my life, I’d be grand with that. My grandad retired from going to them when he got to a certain age as he didn’t want to get bogged down and depressed by them and be relating his own mortality to them. He was probably in his late 70s at that stage. I’m 30, but I think I might try the same trick. Just in case, like.
[/quote]My auld fella done the same thing thraw just decided one day to stop goin and that was that

[glasagusban]

@Thrawneen

If I never had to go to another one in my life, I’d be grand with that. My grandad retired from going to them when he got to a certain age as he didn’t want to get bogged down and depressed by them and be relating his own mortality to them. He was probably in his late 70s at that stage. I’m 30, but I think I might try the same trick. Just in case, like.

Thraw, you are a role model for the modern man.

[SHANNONSIDER]

I know a few people who were extremely hurt by people neglecting to go to their loved ones funeral, just be careful Thraw that you express your condolances in other ways if you stop going.

[glasagusban]

@SHANNONSIDER

I know a few people who were extremely hurt by people neglecting to go to their loved ones funeral, just be careful Thraw that you express your condolances in other ways if you stop going.

That’s true. For all the talk about funeral etiquette above I think a lot of younger people don’t get it or don’t give a shite. My mates grandmother passed away recently and I was disappointed with a few friends of ours who were simply too lazy to pop out to pay respects.

[Bandage]

I wouldn’t usually attend a funeral of a mate’s grandparent. It’s one link outside the accepted parameters, I feel. Parent, sibling, child (heaven forbid) - obviously. But grandparent - no. A text will suffice followed up with a ‘oh sorry to hear about your grandmother’ when you’re next drinking with them a couple of weeks later. Am I wrong here?