Thatās great ye can talk so openly about it with the girls. Keep her lit
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Mrs ccha after many years together is well aware of the large paternal family plot in the home town with readily available space. Indeed she has been working close by this autumn. She may not be so aware of the middling size plot that the maternal side occupies close by. 
āWould you like to be buried with my people?ā
Theyāve logged off for the last time
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Iād no idea you had a boy that passed on @fenwaypark, not sure if you ever mentioned that elsewhere here before, but was aware youād a boy who had a lot of issues. God rest him and Iām glad there are two girls who have come along since to brighten up your lives.
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Iād love to be cremated myself but was there a thing before that Catholics should be buried not cremated?
There is no right or wrong way regarding burial or cremation but Iād definitely say talking about him every day is an excellent way of dealing with a totally shit experience. I know exactly how you are feeling and didnāt do the talking bit. It comes back to bite you. Best wishes @fenwaypark
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Iāve a grand-aunt off to the crematorium in Dublin on Friday. Always the way she wanted to go. 101 years of age.
Got the Covid at 100, but made a full recovery. She had just got her first vaccine and they reckon it saved here
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Got a bit emotional reading that mate. Itās important that heās part of the girlsā lives and thatās lovely what ye have done. Wish ye only the best for the Christmas and beyond.
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Childrenās graveyards are awful places. It wouldnāt trouble me when we leave her though to come home, well not often I donāt think. Donāt think much of her at all anymore really. If she had survived, we wouldnāt have had our lass, so I think weāve just transferred.
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Surely it would be the coffin too
Iām not suggesting the crematorium run a side gig of second hand coffinsā¦
Yep.
In brisbane when my father in law got cremated the service was held outdoors and then he was brought away to be cremated. So when the hearse turned the corner thatās the last the family saw of the coffin.
Needless to say the road was busy and the hearse got stuck in traffic and the moment lasted longer than it should have
Thatās was the day my war on cars began
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Did you walk all the way to the airport for the flight then?
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I was an emigrant at the time mate
Funeral there this morning. Big crowd, small church. The priest was a brother of the deceased and gave her a lovely heartfelt send off.
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Just catching up on some older posts here and read the post from Choco about giving condolences to someone a while after the funeral. I was in a similar position last Saturday night when I came back from the bar and a lad I know had briefly joined our group for a chat. Wouldnāt be close to him really more a friend of friends but he lost his wife a few months ago and this was the first time I had seen him since. Anyway we were standing in a group of 6 or 7 people and we exchanged greetings but I didnāt offer condolences as we were in a group and I thought it would be the last thing heād want to hear in front of a group of people in a pub on a Saturday night. I thought Iād get a quiet word in his ear before he left but never got the chance so feel bad about it now but still not sure if I did the right thing or not. I wouldnāt even have his number to send a text and he wouldnāt have mine so might be a bit weird to go down that road.
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Iād say best not to bring it up in a pub setting at all
Donāt feel bad mate. You meant well and Iām sure that is apparent.
I was in a similar situation a few weeks back. My sisterās best friend lives in the same town as me and my wife and we have often met her out and about. Her younger sister passed away a couple of months back after a long battle with cancer. I spotted her in the pub two weeks ago having drinks with a friend but didnāt want to approach her for the same reasons as you. She left then and I regretted it but told myself and the very fact that Iām regretting it means that Iām not a bad bloke.
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Poor form in my opinion. It should have been a priority with you to express, even belatedly, your condolences. Iām sure you had an opportunity to squeeze in beside him, even momentarily to acknowledge her departure and just leave it at that. As I said, merely my opinion. Have you considered his opinion of yourself in the aftermathā¦.Heās at home in his grief muttering to himself about that heartless fucker Horseboxā¦ā¦
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