I would safely say he couldnāt give a fuck about whether a guy he doesnāt really know didnāt sympathise with him in a packed pub when he was out for a pint.
Heās probably got other things on his mind.
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Iād be with Boxty, Horsey mate. Always better to say something rather than nothing.
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Yeah Iād agree it shouldāve been a priority but, not making excuses, we were in an awkward kind of spot, there was a table of drinks and stools and 3 or 4 people between us so it was either roar it across the table or move a few people out of the way to get over to him and I thought Iād get closer to him at some stage. Anyway he was gone 5 minutes later and I thought fuck it I shouldāve maybe moved people out of the way but think it was the right thing not to roar it across a group of people.
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Iād say itās more likely that he thought so and so never sympathised with me the ignorant cunt.
Seems like an excuse to me
An earnest look and āshur, look it, itās a Cuntā will suffice in a pub setting.
You really should have made it your business to talk to him
Heāll remember that in thirty years
Thatās the other side of it. I was thinking heās out for a few drinks it might be a rare time he wasnāt thinking about it and might curse me, a lad he barely knows, bringing it up in a pub when heās trying to relax.
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You did the right thing being in a group ā¦ Iād say last thing heād want is you inadvertently making it topic of conversation ā¦ next time you see him just refer to that time and that you didnāt get a chance to say it in private ā¦
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Iād agree and would take that approach normally but thought it was an ill advised thing to roar across a group of people laughing and joking in a pub.
When I lost people close to me I didnāt think that someone I barely knew didnāt bring it up months later when I saw them next. I may have been peeved if people close to me didnāt get in touch or didnāt attend the funeral etc but even that wouldnāt have cost me much thought.
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Thatāll put his mind at rest now fair play
Thatās exactly what I plan to do.
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True. Donāt stress it. Thereās no good to be got from it. Youāll get another chance pass a word and itāll be no different
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Iād say its the last thing heād want while heās out tbh, especially in a big group
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I couldnāt honestly tell you who did or didnāt offer me condolences nor would I care. Itās an awkward enough thing for most people who wouldnāt know you well, Iād know that myself and itās not like people in that position wish you ill itās just that they missed the moment.
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There are also those who offer condolences purely for show.
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