Iâve got to the stage where I just single out the bereaved I know and corner them for a shake hands after. I donât do that walk up and shake hands with a dozen people I donât know shit anymore. Embarrassing all round.
anyone find the following situation tricky.
say an old person who you have respect for dies in the parish. But you absolutely despise one of their family i.e the deceased son. He knows this and in fact you dont even talk if you meet socially. Tricky expressing condolences in those circumstances complicated by the fact that you may be on good enough terms with other family members.
Also, if you are a mourner at a funeral is it acceptable to meekly acknowledege the condolences of someone that you despise and you know is a two faced cnut who had little respect for the deceased?
sometimes that is easier said than done. They have the knack of making it difficult for you to do that and may be chatting endlessly to the one person you need to shake hands with.
that is the best plan of action, SS. The Faughs boys seem to turn out in strength for the funerals of past stalwarts or funerals of family members of club members. You d pick up a few tips from them boys. I have been at a few Faughs funerals. The old Faughs notes in the herald great for acknowledging the death of some lads father, mother, uncle , aunt. Have they a funeral officer in the club?
Are you saying this fella had no respect for his auld man? Under those circumstances, you all carry yourself with the decorum necessary and in respect to the deceased.
Unless youâre travellers, then youâd most likely tear the shit out of each other and knock the coffin over while your moths claw the scalps off each other.
Thatâs perfectly acceptable funeral etiquette runt. I would often go straight to the person I know in the front row and leave it at that.
Very tricky expressing condolences to a dead person alright mate.
Interesting :strokechin:
I usually shake the hands of all family members seated within a funeral home or house. I find this awkward but as a mark of respect i shake everyones hand whether i know them or not.
I think in future a quick bee line to those i know will be sufficent.
The proper etiquette for shaking hands at the afters of a funeral, as demonstrated by Yosser
I may not have expressed the scenarios with sufficient clarity , horsebox
scenario 1
Having to attend a funeral to express condolences and having to shake hands with a bollix who you hate and he knows you hate him You never talk to the bollix otherwise.You feel obliged to attend as you know the deceased person. The deceased person being the parent of the bollix
scenario 2
I am the mourner. said bollix turns up to offer condolences. You know he is a two faced cunt who hasnt treated you or your family honorably. I d nearly be a bitter enough bollix to refuse to shake his hand when he extends his condolences. Although the pointers I am getting here is that this is completely unacceptable etiqutte
pity more of the cunts dont die
What a heartless bollocks of a man you really are.
I think youâve overthinking this a bit.
did a Faughs man wipe your eye with a pretty lady once upon a time or did they simply embarras you on the hurling field? bit harsh to to wishng death on the men of Tymon North
id be fairly sure Ive never had the misfortune of meeting a âfaughsâ man
Agreed. Just meekly shake the hand and move on, being two-faced is tolerated at funerals.
And you have to keep a mental list of who does not turn up as well when you are one of the bereaved. For future reference, like.
Youâre not wrong balbec, not wrong at all.
thanks for the direction lads.
hey lads,
the big buzz at funeral masses now seems to be for a member of the family to go up and say a few words about the deceased. was this always the case? I cant recall this been as common in the past. My recollection is that the priest used to say whatever needed to be said about the deceased.