@Lazarus is your cousin?
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You’ve a lovely way of recounting a tale.
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Actually, his atheist older sister who had her kids baptised to go to Catholic school is turning into another mother of the year. Her kids run around the place hitting kicks to anyone they fancy but she won’t scold them, she wants to reason with them. Everyone else wants to just deck the little cunts but of course you can’t.
My heart is full of love brother. Especially for all those starting out with a family in these tough times.
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kick 'em back.
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It’s very easy talk about teaching them when they are cooing at you.
Wait until she has your balls in a vice and then come back to us.
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that’s harsh language…
my small one has me wrapped around her finger… and I wouldn’t have it any other way… I’m her father and I’m there for her. No matter what. If she can’t count on that, then what’s the point.
Granted.
But her two little cousins - 2 + 4 (boys) have been a massive eye opener in terms of setting boundaries / respect — talk to your kids as best of you can but they have to know there’s consequences if they step over the mark — children need discipline — actually, humans need discipline.
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they do of course mate, but the key phrase there in your post is children…
they’re children you’re the adult.
You can scream and ball and shout and hit… it only ever makes the situation worse… the child is only behaving themselves to avoid being hit… they don’t learn good behaviour… they only learn to hide bad behaviour…
You’ve to talk them round and plamas them into seeing what good behaviour is and rewarding good behaviour.
obviously, extremely bad behaviour or putting themselves in danger etc needs punishing, but only in extreme circumstances
Ah yeah, totally - I was only advocating hitting @balbec’s children earlier… obviously not my own.
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Of course you’re always going to be always there for her (or him), otherwise what’s the point having kids.
Being there for her or him and handing the myriad of challenges as kids go through the various stages of development are not always aligned. One of the worst mistakes parents make is trying to always be their kid’s friend. You’re not always their friend, your primary role is as a guardian.
whatever approach you take, as long as you are consistent and it comes from a loving place you won’t go far wrong…
my idea of hell is having a child who feels they can’t approach or confide in me, or is in any way afraid of me.
I’ll give her whatever support she needs in life, If I can pass on some lessons along the way to help her in the future I will.
That’s very naive with all due respect.
Literally every teenager goes through a phase where they distance themselves from their parents, which can range from indifference to disdain (what the fuck would you know about life, you’re an old out of touch cunt and have no idea what I’m dealing with). Teenage girls generally are more difficult in this respect. The best you can hope for is that this phase doesn’t last too long and how you react to it largely determines that.
I have no problem with that… that’s the lottery I was referring to earlier… I’ll still try to be consistent and loving throughout that mate.
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Getting a bit steamerish now fellas
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It’s gone full steamer… thanks for the raincheck
You cant say that in 2020!!!
There has to be punishment for bad behaviour and you have to stick to your guns and be united with your partner in that. It easy talk to them the when, like you say they know their boundaries. A cousin of mine has her two ruined. Pussyfooting and negotiating with them to be behave. It’s frustrating to watch.
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That would make a lot of sense in hindsight. Ours was a 2-1-2 setup. It took me a few months to get over that I wasn’t in the top class, but a co-top class. I needed that validation as a 12 year old. I still do.
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