I do believe that my current situation of not having kids, yet being a tremendous uncle to two nephews and a niece, allows me to give the definitive answer on this topic.
I feel that your current stance of ‘not allowing lads around to the house when you are not there’ is perfectly reasonable. Yet 15 year olds are not reasonable creatures. I think your best bet is to try and explain to your daughter the dangers of letting a 15 year old bloke into your house on your own and hopefully she will be mature enough to tell him to fuck off if he tries naything.
Farmer, that is a conversation I don’t want to have. My other half agrees with my daughter in the fact that I should loosen up. But I’m not having some wee cunt sitting on my couch watching my TV with my daughter when I’m not there. Even if I was there I wouldn’t let him in.
I don’t want to be a ‘cool’ dad farmer. If I’m not overly protective of her on the boys front, nobody will. I’ll drive her and her friends wherever they want to go and such but she is 15 so I don’t want any boys around. I know what I was like at that age and it scares me. She’s still a baby. She is spending a lot of time on facebook and bebo of late and her phone is permanently attached to her hand. I haven’t mentioned this incident to her since that day, the question is do I bring it up with her? Or do I find this kid and scare him off? <_<
When I was a young fella, I’d have chanced a lot of things, wouldnt you? Especially if the girl was bringing me home to her place when her folks weren’t home. You need to have words with her. He’s a lad, what do you expect from a dog only a bark?
That’s what I’m wondering, should I be more annoyed with her for bringing him to the house or with him for pressuring her to do so? Maybe she was returning the favour and has been to his house on a number of occasions. Why did she feel the need to bring him over when I wasn’t there? It’s not good for me. :o
Yea, I’d take her aside to be honest, its a tough one mate, I dont fancy you to be honest, having daughters nowadays is different than when I was growing up, we had grunge and women wearing long sleeve shirts and padded shirts, it was a whole different ball game than now.
Very true about fashion and the likes though, when I was 15 things were a lot different. The current craze of fashion and make up is madness. I will have to summon up the courage to have a few words with her. Wish me luck, it will be as awkward for me as it will be for her.
You left out an important piece of info here, will you be donating on one of these mycharity.com things, in other words will your donation be public and available for all to see?
Missed this post earlier but I tend to agree with Clarkey and Tinnion quite strongly. I have no qualms supporting a worthwhile charity undertaking by a friend / acquaintance but I find these ‘give me money for my flights please’ instances wrong. They can always work with charities in their local area if they don’t have the funds to travel to the exotic location these charitable activities are invariably taking place in.
there was a lad onto me recently about doing a parachute jump for chairty. needed to raise 400 quid at a minimum to do it, and I asked how much would it cost to just do a parachute jump. he said it was about the same, but that he’d get to this for free. so I told him to fook right off. ‘but its for charity’. he didnt know the charity and ended up admitting he couldnt give a shite about whatever charity it was or how much went to it, but as long as he got his free jump he didnt care.
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