I tell you it is. The ultimate game changer. The biggest factor in getting your life back on an even keel.
Up nice and early this morning after the older one started roaring at 5.45am that it was Coronation Day. We were up and painting at 6am. A great tonic after working until midnight on some pointless spreadsheet.
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18:30 seems very early to be putting her down for the night?
Thats fucking glorious 
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Should I commence remote control training asap?
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The 3 millionth TFK hit is not meaningless
He does look like him tbf
The 2 hour drawn out process of getting child to sleep involves my wife giving her a feed before bedtime on a spare bed we put into the childās room. The little one eventually then falls off asleep. Can take anything from 30 ā 45 minutes. The difficult part then is transferring the baby into the cot without her waking which often can result in 2 or 3 attempts but not before going through the whole process at the start again. There are little rituals done before she goes upstairs to bed to let her know its bedtime. And it is basically the same for daytime naps as well. She must spend half her life up there and it cant be good for anyones sanity. It means she has very little down time during the day. I do all the shopping and cooking and obviously when my wife is working I put the little one down in a shorter (more heartless) timeframe but it may take a sleep consultant to show the way. Iām not sure I can look at her going through another June with sun trying to break through the blacked out curtains up stairs with her spending half the day trying to get her off for her daytime nap. Anyway it will sort itself out eventually. But might just take an extra push to sort it out sooner.
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Sound lads. Some great advice there. There will be a few half ones drank tonight thatās for sure.
An assortment of snacks and beverages will be compiled later today for the superbowl and some Nurofen suppositories for the little one.
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Iād take her off the coffee mate. At minimum make sure she doesnāt have any after 1pm.
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Yes.
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Youāre not alone kidā¦ Youāve seen the stories aboveā¦ Our own wan hates going down and can take 2/3 attempts as well. Weve tried letting her at it but sheāll keep bawlingā¦ All this too will pass.
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Is it your first child?
My God the rigmarole we went through with the first one isnāt far off that, except we did it on the floor on a sheepskin rug,
When my missus was working I often stuck the child into the car and drove around for a while, nearly always did the trick
But you learn, and donāt allow the others to develop those habits, itās all part of it
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We abandoned the cot with our first lady, she never ever settled in it. I bought 2 extra long bed rails for either side and put a double mattress on the floor, no base. Game changer. She used to breast feed to sleep like you described but far easier roll her onto her side on the double mattress than put her down into a cot. It also means when she awoke during the night my wife could lie in alongside her and fall asleep too as the little one fed. Itās probably not recommended, but fuck that, whatever works.
First born is now 3 1/2 & sleeping in her own double bed with same bed rails and base underneath in her own room 12 hours straight most nights. Itāll pass. We used Nanny 911 I think it was called for a strategy on how to eventually break the connection she had with needing one of us to go to sleep when she was about 2
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Iāve made an anonymous submission to Tusla.
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Twas safe as houses
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Tough going but unless mother is willing to let the baby learn how to self sooth then it wonāt really improve. Doing all of those rituals is just re-enforcing to the baby that she needs mother to go to sleep. This is all assuming that there isnāt other issues at play (reflux ,etc).
I scoffed at it originally but a baby sleep consultant changed our lives. About ā¬350 but you need to stick with her for 2 or 3 weeks. Easily the best money ever spent. Our youngest had really bad reflux but once that passed when he turned one, it was time to go into his own room. This was on the back of sleeping on top of his mother half upright in a sling for 12 months due to the reflux. Naturally, he was horrified at first and the screaming was really bad but there was techniques that will help. Stay beside him for first few nights until he falls asleep (usually after lots of crying) and then slowly move further away each night until you leave the room. Day time routines, fresh air, when/what to eat, pre sleep routine all will help also.
IN the space of 2.5 weeks, we went from getting only a few hours proper sleep a night to putting the little lad down at 7pm, closing the door, no crying and him sleeping straight until 7am. Weāve the very odd hiccup but a year on, he is still on that 7-7 shift. Magic.
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this is it exactly @johnnysachs . Christ when I think of what we used to do with our first born. She had to be held in some shape or form to go asleep, whether this was physically holding her against you or at the very least weād have to have a hand on her rubbing her back or under her head. I remember times trying to get away from her cot when she was asleep, taking my hand back and trying not to move her or wake her and creep out of the room. It was torture for ages. We eventually bit the bullet and just put her down, said good night and walked out. She cried at night going down for a few days and it was awful, but needed to be done for all our sakes. As you say, wasnt a hope that happened on the following ones, they were fired into a cot and off they went to sleep.
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Driving them around is another gamechanger.
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I remember being afraid to get up for a piss in the middle of the night, then eventually making sure that all obstacles were clear on the way to the jacks, the doors open and the seat up,
Great times
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