Love to we must have it
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Jesus if you weren’t depressed before…
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Don’t believe it Joe. It’s bollox. Or the same lads are hocked up to their tits to try to pay for it.* Happiness is in who you are not what you have.
*I’m currently trying to have my tits raised to up my potential level of hock…
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They are lads who spend most of their days on an internet forum competing for likes of stangers. They have fuck all.
Dont worry about the big things Joe. I’ve always found that they have a way of working themselves out. Anyone who rushes into a house/car/wife decision usually ends up setting themselves back worse than they were at square one. Do the little things right and the big things will come your way when the time is right.
I don’t know you bud, and I’m sure all the advice given here is in good faith. But it won’t get solved on here
As someone said earlier, the fact you are talking about it is a start.
Maybe, go and speak with a counsellor, someone close to me has done that and has had a positive experience.
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Just because Joe needs to be told, I’m after having the my worst day professionally for 5+ years. My whole life and circumstances are now up in the air, suddenly it’s all just a mess.
The only thing that keeps me going is my odyssey to become an admired poster.
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Hope the like helps
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Fuck your career mate. I always felt the admired status completes a fella.
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We know each other personally and I know you’ve had a much tougher time of late than most here.
Get the help you need. As others have alluded to, they know partners, family and friends who have, and from my experience, it has done them a world of good.
As for the rest of the posters here having the life of Reilly, I don’t think that’s the case mate. I’d imagine the mundanity of everyday working life (no wonder there are so many accountants here) means that this place is a form of escapism. Other lads here have nobody to talk in the real world, bar the sex workers they’re paying to be with. Fellas are coming in here because they’ve had a Barney with the Mrs or because it’s a forum away from the stresses of making rent/the mortgage, escalating debt and escalating waist lines. In short, the grass isn’t always greener…
You’ve a big project of work ahead of you. Take it in bite size chunks and celebrate each little achievement as opposed to focussing on what’s not gotten done. And talk to someone professionally. Family and friends and this e-community can be a huge source of support when things are crap, but an impartial professional will help you
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It changed my life in ways I couldn’t imagine. I’ve it on the CV
Head up Joe. It’ll get better, just keep going 
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My cv is loser
here kid. It seems like you’ve an itch you can’t scratch. There’s no harm going speaking to someone.
Jesus lads would ye man up and get on with it for fuck sake. I dont remember anyone being depressed in the 70s, was it even invented rhen?
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In the 70’s people suffering with depression were said to be suffering from their nerves.
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I think fellas had different coping mechanisms then - bate the wife, drink the shit out of it or throw themselves in a river and have it described as an ‘accident’
But you make a valid point. You may take interest in the work of the famous French sociologist Emile Durkheim and his concept of ‘anomie’. Durkheim wrote a book about suicide at the end of the 19th century, after a radical era of social change in terms of industrialisation and urbanisation. His study showed that not all individuals felt at ease with these changes in a modern society, and that loss of meaning was a contributor to increased rates of suicide in France. The last forty years haven’t seen as significant a change in how society operates as when Durkheim wrote about, but perhaps we have this increase of people feeling this sense of ‘anomie’ when they feel they can’t keep up with the changing norms and demands of society
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that is a very damaging mind set to have. The last thing someone who is feeling shit about themselves needs to hear, is to “man” up. That mindset is probably responsible for having the person in their current situation.
I’m a man, I can’t be sad or have issues or talk about them to anyone. Cop the fuck on to yourself and go away and talk to someone
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The ‘nerves’ was very different to depression. It was more of a complete mental breakdown. The only remedy at the time was to ‘take to the bed’.
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You’d be some counsellor.
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