I heard a child psychiatrist on radio recently talk about why kids act up at home. Said it was because their relationship with their parents is the most intense relationship they have or can ever have. Their greatest fear is being abandoned/not loved etc
He said when a kid has a meltdown the physical nature of their brains is not capable of rational thought so to leave them, tell them you love them but their behavior is not acceptable and you will talk later. Then talk later.
He said unless a child is about to hurt themselves, walk out the door at midnight or similar then to leave them to have the meltdown and let it pass. Donāt get into a shouting match.
I did a course on restorative practice recently and it was along the same lines. It looked at the compass of shame as to why kids behave badly. Provides a great framework for building positive relationships and resolving conflict. Useful not only in schools but in everyday life. The worse thing you can do is fight fire with fire. You need to breathe and ask the right questions.
Iāve go buy a nice pot for a rose bush I was given as a birthday present. This where Iām at in life.
Itās always how I aspired to spend my August weekends.
Iām gonna smash today out of the park lads. Weāve just moved into a new gaff. Mrs J had a list of jobs she wanted done over the weekend. Iāve already connected the new washing machine and painted samples onto the back wall. Flying.
One of the main reasons I like this time of the year is that there is great weather for drying clothes. I used to love the summer cos I could go to music festivals and take drugs. Now I get my kicks in getting 2 Full loads washed, dryed, folded and put away all in the one day.
As a nod to my old self I sometimes listen to The Stone Roses on Spotify when Iām folding the clothes.
The most beautiful baby girl born this eveningā¦ No shame in saying I wept like a girl myself.
Induction lasted 24hours start to finish, mother and baby in top formā¦ Iāve been up 42 hours myself and Iām a bit delirious. I even thought I was a bison there at one stageā¦
Sipping a west Indies Guinness here and fucking off to bed pronto.
Legend.