I’ve been invited to 4 so far in '23. I’ve attended 2 and declined 2 (was best man at one, so that was a no brainer). I have come up with a rule, if they invite me and the missus and say no kids then it’s an automatic decline, it’s added hassle and puts pressure on someone else to try and mind her for a few days.
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I’m sure they didn’t want to be there but felt obliged and shelled out enough for travel and a hotel.
To be honest it’s entirely your fault for inviting them to your wedding and expecting them to pay you for it.
No one invites kids to a wedding.
It’s not a day for children. if you are immediate family of the bride or groom then fine otherwise no way.
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What an arsehole of a post.
No it isn’t.
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+1. Who the fuck wants their kid at a friends of cousins wedding.
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He’s sure someone who went to the mans wedding didnt want to be there?
It’s not about fault, it’s about respect.
And they had no hotel expense with little travel.
Why would you get pissed off at somebody for not paying you for an event you asked them to go to?
Fuck sake.
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exactly
Respect is earned.
A hundred posts in 24 hours discussing weddings. We used to be a proper country.
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@flattythehurdler I get your point about a “going rate” but I think Irish weddings are fairly unique in the cost of things as well. Hotels gouge you etc, etc. you’d be up on 20k I presume now for even a medium sized wedding, mostly the cost is paid by the betrothed, it’s just common courtesy to at least cover your cost and a bit on top if you do attend. Even if you don’t attend just wing a card with a 100 quid in it etc etc, give them a good start in life
You can tell the lads on here who throw 20 euro in a card and play poor mouth about the travel and hotel costs.
Like it or not, presents are expected at weddings.
And a fucking decent one at that.
And the same conversation every time someone asks “the going rate”
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How is it respectful to invite people to your wedding that you don’t particularly want there and expect them to give you a present for it?
I presume they got invited solely because of his respect for his parents. Everyone knows the game
The point is that they are there.
They accepted the invitation. Money please.
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