[quote=āThrawneen, post: 758364, member: 129ā]I was looking for the āBecoming a Kept Manā thread there but couldnāt find it. This is on the table for me. My lady wants a child, ASAP, and she wants to go back to work after and have me be a stay-at-home father. In a place in the countryside near enough to my young lad. She told me her current pension stats last week. Sheās rich. Not millionaire rich but rich enough to be very very comfortable. And sheās going for a promotion in a few months which she will probably get.
Iām fierce fond of her but to go ahead with it at 31 feels like the equivalent of Robbie Keane moving to LA Galaxy. Iāll still be doing well, (sheās an attractive woman and keeps herself in shape), but probably not at the level I could be operating at for another few years. That said, I fucking hate office work and would love to jack it in.
Any advice lads? Iām hoping this might lure back the Dunph, who, if memory serves me correct, originally began the kept man thread.[/quote]
I had an experience of something like this some time ago Thraw. The good lady had moved to Beijing and I was taking an extended holiday (5-6 months or so). I had my own cash for spends so that wasnāt an issue but the life of getting up around 10, going for a swim in the pool downstairs, meeting herself for lunch of a day and then afternoons of playing squash or drinking followed by playing football/drinking depending on what was required suited me dandy. I had a very definite end point in sight though, and amnāt sure how good it would be indefinitely(mostly due to to my capacity for default drinking when idle).
I also took four months off work last year to mind the little lady after the good lady went back to work and before we slung the little one into creche. Never underestimate how difficult minding a kid can be. We had a good routine and did lots of cool stuff (it was around the time she was learning to crawl) but I seriously missed contact with adults. I was quite happy to go back to work when the time came and doubt very much whether I could do the fulltime thing.
Some things to think about
-Your world will get an awful lot smaller
-You will have little or no financial independence(unless you can sort out a handy sideline).
-This will impact greatly on your wider interests including your generous philanthropy towards ladies of the trade.
-Never, ever mention this website as she will not have much difficulty in working out who you are.
Staying at home with one child is a doddle. Get the first 6 months out of the way and it is plain sailing after that, plus they start losing all the extra equipment around then that tie you down.
[quote=āJuhniallio, post: 758383, member: 53ā]I had an experience of something like this some time ago Thraw. The good lady had moved to Beijing and I was taking an extended holiday (5-6 months or so). I had my own cash for spends so that wasnāt an issue but the life of getting up around 10, going for a swim in the pool downstairs, meeting herself for lunch of a day and then afternoons of playing squash or drinking followed by playing football/drinking depending on what was required suited me dandy. I had a very definite end point in sight though, and amnāt sure how good it would be indefinitely(mostly due to to my capacity for default drinking when idle).
I also took four months off work last year to mind the little lady after the good lady went back to work and before we slung the little one into creche. Never underestimate how difficult minding a kid can be. We had a good routine and did lots of cool stuff (it was around the time she was learning to crawl) but I seriously missed contact with adults. I was quite happy to go back to work when the time came and doubt very much whether I could do the fulltime thing.
Some things to think about
-Your world will get an awful lot smaller
-You will have little or no financial independence(unless you can sort out a handy sideline).
-This will impact greatly on your wider interests including your generous philanthropy towards ladies of the trade.
-Never, ever mention this website as she will not have much difficulty in working out who you are.[/quote]
Thanks Juhni, thatās a very informative post. I know exactly how hard minding a baby/toddler can be. Itās not much fun at all, but itās only a couple of years and then theyāll be off to the creche 3 times a week.
I do enjoy your stories and your willingness to share whatever, even the most personal shit, with the forum.[/quote]
Well, sure why not? Life is all a bit surreal, so who cares, right?
Juhni, she says she just wants the one. If she got pregnant today (impossible as she has the painters in), sheād be almost 38 by the time the sprog was ejected unto us. She likes her comfort, her booze, her weekends away and sheād be near 40 by the time a possible number 2 would come into the equation. We also have my current child to take into account. So I think itās safe to say itāll just be the one.
Donāt know Thraw. You are miserable in your job right now. So you could jack it in, you are still young. Could you take unpaid leave for a couple of years? But if this lady is relatively senior job wise, she is probably a ball breaker. Is there a risk that she will become a ballbreaker for you when your financial independence is gone? Staying at home with a kid is do-able and one as RTT says is a piece of piss. But you need something to keep yourself active. And watch out for dividing your time between kid 1 and kid 2. She may resent you spending time with Kid 1 at the expense of hers. What happens if she decides to dump you after she gets your remarkable DNA? Would you look to protect yourself by getting married, ie securing yourself a bit?
