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How did this work out? I am in a similar situation currently. I’ve been in long distance relationships before but I didn’t really care if they worked or not. This time I do but I’m wondering if it’s ever a good idea to take such a relationship too seriously. Please advise mate.
It is going very well but I think the two of us are very well suited and have similar interests and tastes which help as does the fact that I have a flexible enough job which means that I will often pop across the Irish sea to her on a Friday and WFH on Monday and Tuesday and fly back early on a Wednesday every second or third week while she is a teacher meaning she has been back for long spells at mid terms.
I wouldn’t have had any interest in such a relationship with previous girlfriends but this one is working well so far we are now six months at this long distance thing and while it can be frustrating at times and we probably can’t really sustain it for a lot longer both of us are committed to it. One of us will have to make a decision regards relocating at some stage next year but I think we might even find a middle ground and both of us upsticks and fuck off to somewhere like Dubia for a year and see what happens.
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Keep em long distance for as long as possible. I was back and forth to Cork every second weekend for nearly two years, great days. It’s a different ball game when ye move in.
Big Mick, is there any chance of her teaching in Ireland?
Medium term yes, but she is full time where she is and a full time permanent gig in Ireland is hard to get as far as I know. But as we are only 7 months in I wouldn’t be asking her to move home for me.
Would you ever think of asking an English based poster to drop in on her from time to time to keep an eye on her? I don’t mean in a watchful, negative sense, just someone who could make sure she’s doing alright.
This girl is Polish which complicates things a little, although it’s handy enough to fly back and forth with Ryanair. I’m not really sure where to set expectations as we’re both fairly into it, but I don’t want an uphill struggle to maintain some relationship that might be doomed in the end. Hard to know how to handle it. She wants us to go on holidays somewhere next month which will be a decent indicator of what the long term prospects are I suppose. See how that goes and take it from there.
Go for it. A holiday will give you a good idea if it’s going to work out or be worth continuing with, I hope.
A holiday is far from reality- While they might have a great holiday life happens inbetween the periods before meeting again. @Watch_The_Break all you can do is play it out but be honest all the way, that or baba her early.
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True. But if he still fancies giving it a go after a week straight in her company then that’ll be a good sign.
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the only thing a week together on holiday will indicate is whether you can simply tolerate each other exclusively for a few days and also whether you will end up despising each other. nothing else.
for relationships the only way of knowing unfortunately is in hindsight.
what have you to lose from moving to poland and chancing it. my guess is fuck all.
He’s a real romatic at heart, bless him… affairs of the heart are warfare, the sooner he learns that the better.
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Having read over my last post on your prompting, I concur. Good moderating.
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A holiday is only a holiday.
She is going to be looking for a ring pretty sharpish bud and she will expect you to follow her.
True, he didn’t call him a fucking retard yet.
Good point. I suppose.