In the immortal words of Jack Karnehm, good luck mate.
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@Cheasty ive had you on ignore since your crusade on Covid but even though you present as an agent provocateur youāre a solid lad underneath it all. Hope you get through this rough wave and come out swinging hooks in all threads.
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An eloquent and thought provoking post @Cheasty which I hope will be the catalyst to an improvement in your mental health from itās current state. Like others said, get the help you need, talk to family members and donāt be afraid to open up to someone. Meditation can help too to shut your mind and get your heartbeat and breathing relaxed and help prevent any panic attacks that may be affecting you
In the long term, and Iām no expert by any means, give yourself something to look forward to and to take your mind off the trouble that this crazy world we inhabit is increasingly getting into; Iām talking travel, finance permitting, or returning to education or something along those lines to throw your energy at.
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I always enjoy reading @Cheasty musings on sporting topics. Better than 95% of sports journalists. Extraordinary memory for details.
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@Cheasty Knock those demons out of your head, you need to take all those feelings you presented there and bring them to someone who sees this everyday in every type of personality and go through the process, grief is like a leech it feeds away on the mind in tandum with depression but it can be recovered from with help be that family, friends, professional or all three.
For my own part I am well able to pour on the toxicity through posts when it comes to yourself, it was wrong on my part to mock your current situation and not knowing how dark things truly are for you.
I hope you find your way out of these empty feelings sooner rather than later and it will be back to posting inane stats by the time Qatar and Ecuador kick off the opening game of the WC and this will be behind you.
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Donāt worry at all, it was a fair assumption to think I was getting on grand given I was posting a lot and me feeling low isnāt anything to do with any throwaway comment on here.
I made a comment on here to KIB Man years ago on the subject of this thread which was way worse than anything ever aimed at me and honestly it was fucking shameful and what was worse I never apologised it for it.
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Best of luck @Cheasty
You probably already know it, but you are by far my favourite poster on here and i have a genuine sense of excitement when i open my notifications and see you have replied to one of my posts.
On your eyesight, i would definitely be seeking second and third opinions. Many people have sustained terrible damage to their eyes and recovered to live normal lives. You are still very early in your journey and while thereāll be twists and turns, i have no doubt youāll be back to the full of your health before you know it.
I really hope you are better soon and look forward to many more insightful discussion with you.
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A lot of them deserved it donāt be so hard on yourself!!!
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This is a form of entertainment for most of us here. Escapism or a way to step away from the mundane and step in to the maelstrom of this place.
Iāve tried to quit here a good few times but always come back because there is more good than baf. You included.
You arenāt a bad person because you posted bad things here.
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I wouldnāt even reply to someone who doesnāt post horrible things. I donāt think ive engaged with bland @Fran on here in 5 years.
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True it was a throwaway remark made in poor taste but id never have made it had say I read your post earlier today, kicking a man when he is down is never on. I think itās a good idea to disengage from certain threads for spells or altogether entirely(ive done this myself), there has been too much negativity in the world particularly in the last 36 months with Covid and now the war in Ukraine, I know you have a keen interest in debate but unlike in the real world it can fall into the usual bickering and stone throwing very quickly especially on certain threads and topics.
Maybe plugging out from the potentially negative ones here even temporarily may help if even in some miniscule way.
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Water off a ducks back. Stand up. It may take time but stand up. Go easy on yourself. Life is hard enough and thereās plenty to be hard on you without doing so yourself.
Go easy.
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Fuck it sid. I know weāve never really gotten along but if push comes to shove Iāll ride you.
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Yeāll be married before Christmas and divorced before Easter
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Hang in there @Cheasty. Youāre too stubborn to quit. The storm will pass. The sun will shine again.
Talk to somebody, go for a walk, find a little joy in every day. Itās perfectly ok to feel shite right now. But youāll feel better some time in the future. Everything has a solution with time and perspective.
Thereās a future version of you whoāll look back at this time and be proud of your resilience.
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Very brave post @Cheasty, Iām not sure Iād ever have the courage to lay it all out on the table like you have.
In a strange way we all care for each other here and thatās been played out in the responses to your post and in the reactions to some of the recent losses weāve experienced on here.
And weāre just a bunch of anonymous weirdos on the internet so donāt underestimate your own importance to the people you interact with and more importantly the ones who love you.
I think itās fair to say that weāll always be here for you so keep talking, writing and saying these things out loud or amongst us if it helps but also talk to your real life loved ones.
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If TFK was made into a TV show it would be called Band of Toxic Brothers.
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I doubt Iād be caoable of handling grief in the way Geraldine and Redmond Murphy have after the death of their son Red Og. Remarkable people.
Mental illness is something we really donāt understand very well. I just hope weāre becoming more empathetic towards those affected
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Lad at work hung himself at home Tuesday morning. 32 years of age, married last year to a girl that works with us. The most laid back, nicest fella you could meet, the last person you would ever think would want to do such a thing. Canāt get my head around it.
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