Suicide

[corner_back]

I’m sorry for your loss and that you had that horrendous experience @Thornhill . Look after yourself

[Fagan_ODowd]

Sorry to read that @Thornhill. That’s a terrible scenario to face.

[farmerinthecity]

The nature of human experience in terms of thoughts and feelings is that they are constantly moving, often outside of our control. But sometimes we don’t see this and our skewed thinking makes us believe that we’ll be like this forever when this is not possible. That’s why suicide is really such a tragedy - a permanent ‘solution’ to a temporary problem. This is also why, as you say, time is a healer.

[TreatyStones]

@farmerinthecity

The nature of human experience in terms of thoughts and feelings is that they are constantly moving, often outside of our control. But sometimes we don’t see this and our skewed thinking makes us believe that we’ll be like this forever when this is not possible. That’s why suicide is really such a tragedy - a permanent ‘solution’ to a temporary problem. This is also why, as you say, time is a healer

That passage should be recited in schools instead of (or alongside) prayers. It can sound glib when people say about time being a healer, but it is so so true.

[myboyblue]

I hate this thread, I really do. My heart goes out to you @Thornhill. I don’t think there’s many words that can help now other than, talk. Find someone and talk. That’s the key. Besides that, go easy and mind yourself.

[Cheasty]

@myboyblue

I hate this thread, I really do. My heart goes out to you @Thornhill. I don’t think there’s many words that can help now other than, talk. Find someone and talk. That’s the key. Besides that, go easy and mind yourself.

The first thing to do is to find somebody to hug, and who will hug you. To cry to and cry with. Cry every tear that will come, and a lot will come.

The talk will come when it comes.

[farmerinthecity]

Crying is magnificent.

[gilgamboa]

Vent away here pal. Safe zone and good to get it out there in any way possible

[backinatracksuit]

I am so sorry to read that @Thornhill

Very tough for you, you know you did your best, look after yourself now

[Cheasty]

@farmerinthecity

Crying is magnificent.

Every person needs a human blubber pillow. Crying alone is the worst and the most painful. Crying alone rarely happens because crying itself is mainly an interaction. Human interaction unlocks our thoughts and emotions.

But sometimes we just don’t know.

[carryharry]

Sorry for your loss chief.

May he rest in peace.

Mind yourself now, there are no ifs & buts with suicide unfortunately unless it fails.

Remember the good times. He’s at peace now god love him.

[flattythehurdler]

Nowt to be said. Just steady yourself on your family.

[habanerocat]

That’s shocking.
Vent on here all you want and look after yourself.
RIP.

[StoneCold]

Very shocking and tragic event to deal with @Thornhill. Take care of yourself and sympathies to you and all who knew your friend.

[Jayo76]

Sorry for your loss and may your friend RIP. As many have said here mind yourself and I hope you have good people to talk to.

[Thornhill]

Thanks everyone for all the messages. They do help and they do mean a lot.

[PhattPike]

That’s horrific to read @Thornhill, I couldn’t imagine facing into that and the aftermath. Please God the friends and families affected can pull together and help yourselves through the next few days, months and years.

[mikehunt]

That’s horrific. R.I.P. to your friend.

I was chatting to a man a couple of days ago whose son committed suicide. He was saying he felt guilty for not finding him first but deep down he knew it was for the best. Heartbreaking listening to him.

[horriblecunt]

Not often, they are always outside our control. You don’t decide what your next thought is, it just appears. Accepting that you have no control over your thoughts, and that they are not who you are and don’t have to identify with them, goes a long way to alleviate suffering. But not easy after a life of conditioning.

Thornhill, so sorry to read that. Please take care of yourself and reach out to others to help you through this.

[Malarkey]

@Thornhill

I just found my best friend tonight. Don’t know why he did it. Just stunned and devastated. Spend the evening in his home with the guards and emergency services but he was dead with a couple of days. Just back from the mortuary now. I was there with his dad and mam. I’ll never forget seeing him. I suppose the only thing about it was I found him and not his poor father.
Just sitting here in the kitchen now with my wife and we are in bits over him. We loved him so much. I have a letter here from him that I don’t know can I ever read.
I am just all over the place over him.

So sorry to read such a tragic story. Keep as well as you can.

He clearly thought an enormous amount of you. Hence the letter. I hope that element provides a sliver of comfort in time.