Sometimes kids just need to learn the hard way. Let him off into the big bad world.
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This is @Fitzy weāre dealing with. The tone of his posts on this issue indicate a rising seethe levelā¦ā¦
The lad needs a good talking to, not a namby pamby buddy discussion but a lecture on how his mother has cosseted him from birth, deserves and now demands better gratitude than heās showing.
The alternatives need to be outlined as well, move out, get your own gaff and money while you still know everything. Heās an only child - spoiled rotten. 19 - time to grow up a bit, heās no longer 9.
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@Fitzy you make it sound like this lad isnāt your son. I was sure you had a few kids. Did I miss something along the way?
Youngsters now are in a state of delayed adulthood. They live at home longer, and are more reliant on their parents than previous generations.
I also think, in some cases, parents want to be their kidsā friends. I was never āfriendsā with my parents growing up, but as an adult, Iād do anything for them.
No idea how you have come to that conclusion.
You need to step in here and lay it on the line. Sheās your wife, his mother and regardless, heās an adult and needs to understand his actions have consequences. You need to be on her side here for the most part.
Saying he needs a slap is a bit OTT, but itās hard not to think he does
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Heās the only one we have Mac, i thought everyone knew that.
You have nonidea how hard it was to type tht sentence given how drunk I am.
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Iāll update my dossier so 
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Iād say you sent me the wrong LinkedIn link so
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Wow
@Mac at home minding 3 kids for the first time and he insinuating all sorts about Fitzy and his missus
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Youād think he might lay off the booze a bit for the afternoon with three children to mind.
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Must be the Carlow in him.
Tell him that if a stranger spoke to your wife like that youd punch the ignorant ill-mannered bastard in the mouth. Then punch your son in the mouth.
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Thatās where the problem starts. More she does and harder she tries, the worse heāll likely treat her.
Boot him up the hole, tell him fuck off.out of your home if he speaks in anything but a respectful tone to your wife/his mother. Can disagree with her all he wants but he does it in a manner that is nothing but respectful.
Will stand to him in time as you donāt want a cunt who is condescending to his wife in time.
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Listen son. Im buying you steak and chips because youāre an entitled unmannerly unmanly prick.
There. I hope youve learned your lesson. What would you like for dessert
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I deal with lads like @fitzy young fella everyday. The tough love approach rarely works. The approach I described above is based upon restorative practice, which is considered best practice in these sorts of situation. If it fails, by all means try a more hardline approach.
You just never know what is going on in someoneās life/head. You dont want to add any fuel to a fire.
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Most young lads react better to an arm around the shoulder than a kick in the arse. You want to elicit āI donāt want to let you downāāresponse rather than a āfuck you you donāt get itā response
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No offence to those involved but from Simple reading of it, the child is spoiled. Only child, mother going above and beyond, father fretting.
Iād say the boy may have been reasoned with a lot more in his life than heās had the hard tact. Might illicit more of a response being taken out of his comfort zone entirely
But as you say, no harm trying the soft approach first, harder approach as fall back
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You must be out a fortune in steak dinners
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