The Official TFK Father's Issues Thread. I don't know how they do it

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Guys, my young lad is resisting sleep in crèche. And lack of sleep in crèche doesn’t mean the baby / child will be tired and have a long, peaceful sleep at night. The opposite in fact. Fitful sleep during the day leads to an overtired, unsettled child and his 11-hour sleeps from 7.30pm to 6.30am are a thing of the past.

He was sitting in the cot babbling away for half an hour at 3.20am on Saturday night/Sunday morning. Went asleep for an hour then but was up for the day before 5. I was up playing with him at 5.15am today again.

When he’s collected from the crèche we get a standard apologetic comment about them not being able to get him down for a nap today.

My questions are:

is it unfair to expect them to be able to get the child settled and asleep for 1.5-2 hours during the day?

or do we accept that they’re trying their best and the newish surroundings and noise are affecting his sleep?

are we within our rights to push them or would it be the behaviour of arsehole, overbearing parent types who aren’t considering that there’s other babies to mind?

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What age is he?

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Joe Duffy this please

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Plenty of fresh air in the evening will get him down at night. Tell the dossers at the creche to earn their pay

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This is serious, guys.

He’s 1 year, 1 month and 2 weeks today.

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Phase…

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Sleep regression.

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I didn’t sleep well as a child and now I can’t sleep as an adult.

If you don’t rectify this you have failed as a parent.

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You are a failure and should leave this forum.

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You’d have no one to obsess over then though

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This

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FWIW I would advise against dictating to the creche, they look after your child, don’t piss them off (until he’s able to talk). Staff are generally overworked and underpaid. You don’t want them disliking your child because you’re a bad parent.

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How long has he been attending the creche. Would take a month or two to get him into routine there

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Probably a bit late now… damage already done and all that

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Btw…i wouldnt imagine your Johnny is the only one kicking up. Or that its the first time the girls in the creche have come across this issue

You’re a new father though, you’re tired…imagine that

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Can’t believe the young lad is over a year old. Time really flies.

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Try lavender spray in the room. My other half tried this with me (notoriously light sleeper) last night and I slept like a baby.

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Had (still have) the same issue, pal. Sleep is erratic at the crèche. If she doesn’t get a decent nap, a relaxing walk in the buggy tends to calm her down and set the right tone for the evening.

For what it’s worth I think you’re a savage father and you’re doing an amazing job.

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While I know this, it’s no harm to receive the positive affirmation. Thank you bt.

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