Is bad parenting not a huge problem? Lack of discipline. Are useless parents either helped to be better, or held to account. Parents emailing teachers in weekends giving out that tests are too hard for little Josh and that heās being ostracized because of it. The internet promotes individuality, but sometimes conformity at least to non disruptive behavior is needed
Just to be clear, this is a longstanding view of mine. I formed it in 2010 or so. At tea break at work one day we were discussing Back to the Future and how none of the future tech in the film like hover boards and self drying jackets had come to pass, but in many ways tech was far more advanced than they had ever imagined with mobile phones and the internet and such. I maintained that we would be better off with hover boards than with the internet.
Yes.
When this time out, bold corner, talk to your kids auld shite was encouraged it killed kids. A healthy dose of fear is what kids needā¦ We all do. Fear is probably the biggest driver in evolution. You mentioned earlier about a lack of belief in something these daysā¦ Iād argue itās itās more the fear that goes along with beliefs. Kids today have a huge sense of entitlement and a victim mentality then also stemming from social media. The entitlement comes from home and a modern upbringing where most kids have endless material things and experiences from a young age and not enough rejection and being told no. But more importantly they arenāt bate. Now i donāt mean sadistically bate but bate lovingly to learn em good and properā¦ Parents are far too precious about their kids now.
But not in my houseā¦ I saw the 4 year old hop a toy off the 2 year olds head the other dayā¦ I reddened her arse and sent her off wailingā¦ This is real life, thereās consequences to your actions. This isnāt the fucking Waltons.
If you love your kids youāll make sure they semi fear you. And if you really love them you need to bate them into shape. I have two nephews (in-law) and theyāve never heard the word no or stop in their lifeā¦ The sense of entitlement is off the scale. Theyāll have be on medication for mental health when theyāre older, itās a givenā¦ Spoilt as kids, miserable as adults.
Kids are effectively blind people who are walking looking for a boundary. If you donāt set the boundaries theyāll keep going.
I would respectfully disagree my 2 adult children early 20s and mid 20s respectively have had way more opportunities and access to travel, experience different cultures and people through school work etc than I did and overall are way more clued in than I was at theyāre age and both grew up in the era of the explosion of technology smart phones etc when they were younger, we sometimes have a tendency towards looking backwards rather than forwards, different challenges face them no doubt than back in our day like access to home ownership but each generation faces different obstacles that life throws at them.
Would you say you had a happier childhood than your kids do? Iām only at the start of the teen years as a parent but can already see huge issues ahead and know where your coming from with the over parenting over talking about everything
Of course itās observable reality. There are also many other observable realities. Like all the people getting out and enjoying life in sports clubs and engaging in hobbies and pastimes every week. And thousands of young people out getting shitfaced/drinking responsibly and looking for the ride each weekend. And the hundreds of thousands of folk volunteering for community projects etc every week. And lads setting up anonymous online forums so people can argue. Like i said, you concentrate on certain things. Youāve decidedbto concentrarw your observations on certain aspects of life. And theyāre not the good aspects, as you point out. There are many many good things out there too.
Those things (apart from the INTERNET forum bit) also happened in Germany under the Nazis and Eastern Europe under Communism. They happen in Israel right now.
I mean people are so negative, why donāt they focus on the positives of these places?
We had little but were always entertained. Going up to the shop to ask for an empty cardboard box that i could turn into a fort/ castle for my green army pieces was unreal.
Getting a Beano annual at Christmas and reading it for months afterwards.
Skinning an orchard so your Ma would make an auld apple tart as a treat.
Simple things but they were magicā¦ I remember getting a Walkman around 10/11 and it was pure magic. It had a radio and Iād sneakily listen to Century FM under the covers when i should have been asleepā¦ There was a love letter segment that i found fascinating but Iāll always remember being under the covers one night and hearing Leonard Cohenās Suzanneā¦ It was all otherworldly.
Far more innocent times but you had to find out a lot of stuff yourself which is lost now as everything is done for kids and teenagers just use phones
Would taking away your access to the internet be something you could ever envisage happening? Get an auld Nokia phone and sell the laptop. You could still get on it it you really wanted but would be very difficult. Iād love to do it myself but for you it would almost seem to me the same as denying a heroin addict access to heroin. It does you no good at all.